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Hey everyone! I know in a recent YouTube post I said I wasn't going to invite new friends to be on my show anymore, but I didn't mean it literally. I was just really disappointed with some things that a few friends of mine had recently said regarding comments my fans leave on my videos and filming paid commissions for my fans. This show is my creation and I'm very passionate about it and my beloved fanbase, and I'm happy that I feel comfortable sharing these feelings with all of you.
As a creator, I love all the kind words and compliments that fans leave for me on my videos, and I consider it an honor that my fans love me enough to want to support me by commissioning me for custom videos or purchasing access to behind-the-scenes extras. As a result, I don't need to shill for paid product advertisements in the middle of my videos like mainstream YouTubers do because I have you, my fans, as individual sponsors instead, and that's far more authentic than trying to use my influence to sell you some company's product just to make extra money on the side. I would much rather use my influence to help people feel good about who they are and what they like without allowing the world around them to feel any sort of shame for it. At the last two part-time jobs I worked, I met plenty of cool friends who made time to film videos with me on this show and had a lot of fun doing it until their lives took them in different directions and they drifted away. Currently, it's been harder to meet friends who are able to participate. I make new friends easily, but so many people I meet are stressed out and overwhelmed with things like college and relationships, and as a result they don't make time to hang out. Ideally, my show would be an entire crew of good friends having fun together on camera -- our own modern "Jackass" crew, if you will, inspired by the humor of shows like "Ren & Stimpy" and "Rocko's Modern Life" that I grew up watching -- but currently it's just me and my friend K2, who comes around once or twice a month to participate. I do have friends who say they'd like to participate in fitness videos and jiu-jitsu matches, so we'll see it that goes through on their end. While I'm on this topic, I do have a favor to ask all of you. If a new friend appears in a video, please be sure that all your comments you leave for them are kind, welcoming, and respectful. Obviously any friend of mine who appears in a video is going to read the comments that are left for them, and they're more likely to want to continue making appearances if the messages left for them are positive and appropriate. If they're made to feel objectified by comments, they're less likely to want to return to that type of environment, and frankly, I don't blame them for it. My friends are people with feelings just like I am. They don't appear on my show just to be eye candy for my audience or be judged for their looks, or to only entertain something specific someone is into -- they're here as honorary friends of mine to have fun with me on my virtual playground (my channel). In other words, if you want to see new friends on my channel, just remember to be respectful to them. Most of you are kind and respectful to everyone on my show and I appreciate that. I just want to mention this in case there's anyone out there who may have the wrong idea about my show and what it's about. It's always been a comedy, sports, and entertainment show since the beginning, and it always will be. My friends are not "models," they are personal friends of mine who are simply trying to have fun with me on camera. I meet them all organically at part-time jobs I work. I don't go out looking for people I can just make money off of. My friends know this to be true, but when they read comments about themselves from fans getting carried away after seeing a new face on the show, it makes them feel uncomfortable because they've never experienced something like it before. I've been filming for seven years and I truly love and appreciate all the kind and affectionate things my fans say about me, but it's different for new friends who have never been on camera before or never had people online admire them. After a while people will grow to appreciate being admired, but in the beginning they're going to be nervous about trying something new, and the best way to help them feel welcome and encourage them to continue coming around is to be kind and respectful. As the host, creator, and operator of the show, I want to do my part to make sure that my friends have fun and enjoy being a part of this adventure with me. If you, my beloved fans, can help me do this, I believe we'll start to see more new faces participating in the fun. Video commissions are a whole different level of comfort for people new to such a thing, but I at least would feel better if more of my pals were comfortable representing as my friends by being in videos with me. Thanks for your understanding and for taking the time to read this. I'm happy to feel close enough to my fans to publicly share these feelings. There's more content on the way, and video commissions are still always open, so thank you for all the continued love and support 💚 - Primal
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Hey everyone! Primal here. I want to explain the lack of new featured friends on my show so everyone can understand why it isn't as easy as it might seem to meet friends who want to participate despite how fun and positive it all is to you and me.
As you may already know, I originally started this show in 2015 with my former best friend. Our mutual friends from the job we all met at participated with us on the side, and it seemed for a while that I had a good crew of pals who were enjoying being part of something so awesome that I had created, which fans from all around the world have come to love. Then our friends' lives changed and some of them stopped coming around, and then my best friend got married and had to cut me out of his life in order to make his wife happy. I decided to continue on solo, but then my friend K2, who originally started filming with me in 2017, began coming around again so I opened it back up to including friends. Then I met new friends who filmed with me for a while before their lives changed and they too drifted away, leaving K2 to be the only friend participating with me anymore. Being a social person, I continue to meet new friends at my part-time job. I do "regular" things with them like go to the gym and play sports, and as with all my friends, I invite them to participate with me on my show. The only problem is that the content I like to film isn't what they want to film so they don't end up wanting to do it. In some instances, they'll ask me for the link to my channel and I'll tell them, and they'll have a look at it and end up giving me feedback. Sometimes they mention some of the affectionate comments fans leave on my videos, and they're usually weirded out by them. Even though I'm genuinely flattered by the loving comments fans leave me, I'm aware that not everyone is going to want to read things like that written about them by people they don't know, and this scares them away from participating. I try to explain to them that they're harmless compliments and that anyone with enough of a following is going to get comments like that from their fans, but some of them feel that the people watching might only focus on their looks instead of watching for laughs and to be entertained. What they seem to be saying is that they aren't interested in "modeling" for my fans. Another reason is simply because they don't want to have to be on camera when they hang out with their friends. Filming videos with me is not a requirement of my friendship, and since the videos my fans like to see aren't videos they're comfortable with or interested in filming, they end up declining the offer. When we hang out, they just want to socialize and play sports instead of trying to participate in a video for a show they apparently don't feel they belong on. The idea of video commissions is even more discomforting to most people I meet. Even though I've had nearly 30 people featured on my show in the 7 years I've been creating content here for, most people in person tell me I'm so brave and open-minded to allow people to pay me to film videos for them and that they wouldn't be able to do it because of insecurities they have. They tell me I should keep doing it because it's making people happy and they know I'm happy doing it, but they just don't want to be a part of it themselves because it's not for them. Of course I respect my friends' decisions and would never try to force anyone to do something they express discomfort in doing. This situation is difficult for me because the most-watched videos on my channel are wrestling/brethling matches and stinkpit/stinkshoe skits, and these require more than one person to film. This is why I'm especially thankful for K2 because he enjoys filming these types of videos with me, but it's hard to find new friends who want to jump in on it. I know I have fans out there who are happy to just see me without the need of another person to be present, and for that I'm most thankful. The No Deo Hero has actually been a solo channel since 2021, and I really appreciate K2 continuing to come around and participate in the videos with me. He still comes around to this day, and he's still available for video commissions as well like I am, but as far as anyone else goes... I have no idea when I'll be able to meet more friends who want to be on the show full-time with me, especially when it comes to custom commissions. You might occasionally see other friends of mine featured in channel videos every now and then, but just know that it's not easy to find people locally who share this interest with me. And it's sad because I have so many fans who tell me they'd absolutely love to be a part of my show if they only lived closer! And I would love to have you on my show too if it were possible. So that's why you don't see as many other people in my videos these days. It's my show, and K2 is an honored friend and participant who was able to fully integrate into it after a few years, whereas nobody else wants to commit to the obligation of it in their busy and "normal" lives. But don't worry... you'll always have me! I'll continue to proudly represent for the fellow "different" people in the world, and in no way has the decisions of anyone else affected that for me. I will continue on solo if that's what it takes to keep making the mark on the world that I am with my messages and content, and all the loving and supporting comments and messages from all of you ensure that I won't be stopping anytime soon. I hope K2 is able to continue filming with me for a long time as well, and I appreciate him for being the one friend who still does. Thank you for your understanding and continued support! If you want to leave a comment in response to this blog, feel free to send me an email or write a comment on the Community post of my YouTube channel. Stay tuned for more, and I love you all 💚 |
November 2023
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